Reframing Limbo

Being stuck inside our homes, many people experienced the phenomenon of “having more time” to contemplate and reflect on what’s most important to them.

The way I spent my surplus was thinking about my mortality.

I know. It may sound a bit extreme. But, given the lives lost this year, it’s hard to ignore the fact that we are not invincible.

I made the risky decision to leave my salaried safety net and dive into a chaotic and terrifying journey to reconnect with my personal purpose.

I was not starting my own business, I did not have a clear career path, and I ended up staring down the abyss of uncertainty.

These feelings that arise when you enter into limbo, no matter the situation, voluntary or not, are harrowing.

We exist in a time and culture that values productivity and innovation – constantly pushing us towards the next best thing.

When you are in limbo, it can be challenging to see your value in this quest for the best.

I gave myself a few days of binge-watching Netflix, eating too many cookies, and forgetting what the sun feels like on my skin before it hit me.

I saw an opportunity to connect, grow, and develop. And I could decide how to spend my days.

I was my own boss. And I could write my job description of being in limbo.

I remembered a friendly reminder from Mr. Ernest Hemingway:

“I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.”

So, I started mapping my journey. And being entrenched in resumes and cover letters and job boards – first for others, then for myself – I couldn’t get this idea for a job out of my head.

Because that’s what I needed – a job to do. For my future self.

This is just one story of the uncertainty and limbo-land that I find myself in. And maybe this structure will be helpful to others seeking a path to their next big adventure.

To help myself, I created this:

Now, I am entirely aware that this a little over the top. But what I found is that by sitting down and writing out how I wanted to invest in myself and spend my time, I became much more motivated.

My goals started emerging, and my confidence bloomed.

Not to mention, I was able to apply some whimsy and color because, well, I’m the boss! And I like pink.

How have you tried to stay motivated during this challenging time? Does structure help or hinder you?

Whatever your answer, I hope you take some time to invest in yourself and take care of your heart, soul, and head space.